Morally Reprehensible

I am currently experiencing a bit of a ‘moment’ – you know what ever the diametric opposite of an epiphany is.

I got chucked – which is fine. This is not the morally reprehensible situation. The boy I was kissing is very young – and his family was not, shall we say, so happy about the situation. But nevertheless we persevered for nigh on two years.

During this time, I apparently represented the embodiment of pure evil. Now, I have yet to work out just how supporting him emotionally, physically and financially is evil. Or how apologising to all and sundry for his behaviour (generally influenced by illicit substances), or cleaning up after him, finding him a FANTASTIC job, ignoring his foibles, taking him back after drunken rages, and indiscretions could be conceived as evil but – there you have it. EVIL.

Now, during my time within that family I observed some things that could only be described as morally questionable. Relationships conducting whilst the other was still attached, character assassination, underhanded dealings, comments made regarding peoples political persuasion to the detriment of said persons social, political and career standings……………

All very interesting. But none of those behaviours did they see as being evil. Not even a little bit.

Strange.

Which leads me to the next situation.

I have since discovered that the ex boy has been sleeping with his ex girlfriend. In his sisters (my old friends) house. And not only that, the majority of my (our) friendship group knew about it, along with his family. Oh, before he chucked me.

And just decided not to tell me.

So now on two levels I am confused as to what constitutes behaviour that is morally reprehensible.

So apparently I am simply evil – but his behaviour – totally acceptable and the rest of them, well…………………

I thought I would do some research into morality. And apparently the way I have been conducting myself – you know, give out the love, understanding, compassion, turn the other cheek, lets try and make it the best we can – on a different moral level to “If we don’t tell her, it won’t matter and we won’t get in trouble. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her”.

Have a look here - Morals? What Morals!

And confusion reigns. I really don’t know who to be angry with. His behaviour is not actually that out of character, and I can accept it (morals?), but the behaviour of his family (my friend???) I do not understand. And the rest of the friendship group – I mean really what is that? (One boy actually said –“I thought he was bullshitting me and by the time I found out it was true – well I just decided not to tell you. Did not want to rock the boat.” I am fairly sure that that was a justification of his behaviour for him, and not to help me).

And so to morally reprehensible.


There are things that I do not think are morally offensive that many others would

For example

Taking A class drugs – or any drug for that matter – as long as you are not in control of a vehicle or responsible for small children. After all you are only hurting yourself.

Pornography – hey – I am not saying that all porn is made under circumstances that are conducive to give out the love – but a few dirty stories? Who is that hurting? (an I am going to include any sort of “marital aid” here as well)

Getting drunk in the middle of the day – again with the levels of responsibility and hurting only yourself.

Standing up your beliefs – as long as you have information to back it up.

Whereas things I do find reprehensible (which obviously many do not)

Lying – in any form – especially to protect yourself

Acting with complete disregard of others feelings

Cheating – pretty sure that this one needs no explanation.

Fake justification – don’t say things to make you feel better under the guise of explaining to me or trying to make me feel better.

Lying by omission (can you tell this is one that REALLY winds me up)

Expecting everyone else to carry you and look after you. Stand up for yourself.

Treating people as less than yourself – come on NO ONE is that good.

Casting dispersions on peoples abilities simply because you do not agree with their point of view/sexual orientation/ age group/ choice of shoes.

So world,

Discuss


(I am worried I am over the whole thing and may just have to go and live in a convent for non religious types and carry on my good deeds without having to actually interact with anyone. Ever. Well maybe the postman – a nun can have good shoes can’t she???)